My brother Mark and his wife Marie arrived late yesterday as did Jeanine returning from her yoga retreat in Mexico. This morning, the kids joined us for brunch before we set out for tours of Kyle’s new house, Formlabs (where Maya works), and finally Maya’s apartment. We returned to Concord for a lovely dinner at Papa Razzi, our go-to restaurant for really good food. It has been quite a while since we spent an entire day with family and it felt really wonderful.
My brother Mark and his wife Marie flew in from Minneapolis this evening to visit for the weekend. I had hoped to do some grocery shopping before their arrival but lost several hours of the day having to deal with a flat tire. I picked up a nail from the River House construction site and finding someone with availability to repair it took much longer than I would have thought. On the positive side, I was able to do my grocery shopping with Mark and Marie which resulted in a far healthier and yummy set of options for dinner. Mark prepared steaks which included searing them on their sides, something I have not witnessed before.
I am happy that our first proper snow of the season did not arrive until all the sheathing work on the River House was completed. Just two more steps before the shell is weather tight. First, we need to install the water and ice shield on the roof and then we need to install the windows and doors. Hopefully, we can complete both of these activities before the end of the month. At that point, we can introduce some provisional heating to improve working conditions for the electrical, plumbing, and HVAC work.
Last night the drilling rig was repositioned for the second bore hole location. The casing for the first bore hole can be seen to the left of the mini-excavator’s left tread. Bedrock was encountered at 141 feet with minimal water. The next steps are to install the geothermal loop tubing into the holes and then fill the holes from the bottom up with grout to ensure proper thermal coupling of the pipes to the ground.
Our geothermal heating and cooling system will require two 300 feet deep boreholes to accept the vertical closed-loop pipes through which water and anti-freeze will circulate to pump heat from the Earth into the house (in winter) or from the house into the Earth (during summer). The first well was completed today. We had 142 feet of clay before hitting bedrock and managed to avoid any aquifers. This is a great result since dense clay and bedrock are both great thermal conductors. With any luck, our second bore hole will be completed tomorrow.
Throughout the design process for the River House, I have been very thoughtful about sight lines both internal and external. Now that the first and second-floor framing is complete, I have been able to walk through the house and visually verify that my calculations were correct. Everything is as it should be and as a bonus, I discovered a sight line that I had not considered. It is possible to look through four different second-story windows to see “through” the house into the patio area and “through” the house again to the other side of the river. You would need a ladder or drone to appreciate this view but I thought it cool nonetheless. So cool in fact, that I decided to fly through the four window openings with my drone while shooting a video. It should be noted that I use my drone almost exclusively for photography and flying through obstacles is not something I have had much experience doing. As I made my approach, I was so focused on setting up the sight line that I managed to run into the house for my first crash in several years. The propellors got trashed but fortunately that was the only damage to the drone. Just before the fateful moment, I did manage to capture the view I was looking for.
Kyle and I spent ten hours today, our longest work session to date, completing the installation of strapping on the ceiling in his basement. Normally, this is a simple matter of cutting the 1×3 straps to length and nailing them perpendicular to the floor joists at each intersection, and then repeating the pattern every 16 inches. We used my cordless nailer to drive the roughly 700 nails required for the 350 or so intersections. In our case, however, we had to shim over 100 of them to compensate for the large variations in joist size/position. This was by far the most labor-intensive and time-consuming part of the job but should result in a nice and flat ceiling.
My cousin Heather sent this photo of Chacala Beach with the following message.
Hi Chowbee, Buppy and Carlos —We are having an excellent first day on our retreat, starting with yoga at 7a, breakfast, and a walk along the beach to explore Chacala beach and harbor. Then lunch, yacking, inability to decide what to do next….nap, pool, hot tub, hammock, reading, painting, more yacking…..before yoga at 5 and then dinner. I am trying to lure Jeanine and Carol away from attending a rather fruity sounding program tonight—“self care sanctuary”—to drinking cocktails and playing gin instead. Let’s see if I can prevail over the better angels of their natures, etc. Please send news!
Jeanine shared this photo she took of what she calls her Happy Stairs. I am left to wonder where they lead.
On the home front, Kyle and I continued working diligently preparing his basement renovation project for the drywall crew coming later this week. We had hoped to avoid strapping the ceiling to preserve another 3/4 inch of headroom but upon further investigation, it became apparent that this addition would be necessary to compensate for imperfections in the floor joists. This has added another day and a half to our work and we hope to complete the remainder tomorrow.
Jeanine traveled to Chacala, Mexico today where she will be spending the next week at a yoga retreat with my cousin Heather and cousin-in-law Carol. Located about 90 minutes north of Puerto Vallarta within a small and remote fishing village on the Pacific Ocean, Mar de Jade was founded by Dr. Laura del Valle and two of her siblings.
Back at home, Kyle and I worked hard to put the final touches on framing, plumbing, and HVAC vents in his basement prior to the start of drywalling which will be done by a contractor starting next week.
Starting on Monday drilling begins for two 300-foot deep geothermal boreholes that will support our ground source heat pump. The crew arrived today to set up the rig and excavate a slurry pit. I am glad I was onsite because they were going to locate the boreholes using Massachusetts state setback regulations rather than the more stringent ones mandated by the town of Concord. It would have been a very expensive mistake had I not intervened. Ideally, we would like to hit bedrock quickly and not find any water but Murphy’s Law suggests just the opposite will be true. Drilling is expected to take three days so we should know the answers by mid-next week.
For some time now, Nicolai has been working to promote the development of regional amputee soccer teams in the US. Next month will kick off with a match between his New England Revolution squad and the New York Metros. Hopefully, the weather will cooperate and the teams will not have to contend with frigid or snowy conditions.
Maya shared this rather funny photo taken last December. Masked out of the picture is the couch and pillow on which I was taking a nap.
Napping, in fact, was how I spent much of the afternoon today after my second colonoscopy in as many months, this time in a more advance hospital setting, to remove a large polyp that was identified during the first procedure. The resection was successful and I was back at work before the end of the day.
It will not be long now before we are ready for siding on the River House. This evening I spent several hours working out some of the final trim details for the windows. Our house has nine pairs of windows that are vertically aligned. Five of them will be “connected” visually by a flat panel located between them. The remainder of the siding will use a vertically oriented 6-1/4″ wide shiplap profile. The 2D view above is from a 3D model that includes the 26 framing and trim components required for each window pair.
Jeanine and I met our nephew Johnny at the Weston Reservoir for a lovely 2 mile walk this morning. It has been some time since we have seen him and it was nice to catch up.
Located adjacent to the reservoir is the 27,000-square-foot, 22-room home of Jim and Kim Pallotta located on 28 acres. A billionaire hedge fund manager, Pallotta is a co-owner of the Boston Celtics and by many accounts a nice guy and generous philanthropist. Born in the same year I was to a father from Calabria he grew up in the North End.
We learned today that a good friend of the family died suddenly on Thursday. Sarah Doherty co-founded SideStix, the company that makes the carbon fiber crutches that Nico uses. She reached out to us in 2007 to congratulate Nico for becoming the first person ever to climb Mount Kilimanjaro on crutches. She would become the second and was hoping to learn from his experience. She lost a leg at age 13 while biking when struck by a drunk driver but never let that stand in the way of leading a very athletic life. She worked with her husband, Kerith, an engineer and inventor, to create the world’s most comfortable, light-weight, high performance forearm crutch. Nicolai would become an early beta tester and brand ambassador for the fledgling company which we later became seed investors in. Nicolai spent a portion of his high school gap year living with the couple on the Sunshine Coast in British Columbia and working at the company. Sarah showed us how passion can overcome adversity and was a beacon of hope for all that were lucky enough to know her.
Although we have endured our fair share of weather delays on the River House construction project, thus far, we have been spared major snowfall. This evening we got little more than a dusting after a day dominated by light rain. Now that the roof has been sheathed, it was possible for the crew to work on interior framing. Kyle spent the day working from the Road House while his basement is being insulated with closed-cell foam. He joined Jeanine and I towards the end of the day for a tour of our newly completed work. It is so exciting to be able to walk through the various rooms and to start to get a real feel for what life will be like in the new house.
We are hoping that the River House will be weather tight by the end of the month. At that point, my first priority will be to set up a provisional shop so that I can begin building all of the cabinetry for the house. When we sold our Mattison Drive house, the sale included most of my major woodworking machines (to avoid the hassle and cost of moving and storage). I kept my miter saw, bandsaw and planer and have since replaced my table saw, air compressor, and dust collector. Today, I ordered the pictured drill press which should arrive within 3-5 weeks. All that remains to reestablish my shop is a jointer which I hope to identify and purchase within the next few weeks.
The best security system is one that recognizes and averts a potential threat before it becomes a real one. The River House will be fitted with high resolution (8 mega pixel) cameras at each corner and another integrated with the door bell. These will be hard-wired using POE (power over Ethernet) and have the ability to distinguish between human motion, vehicular motion, and general motion within the filed of view. Each is fitted with infrared illuminators which allow for night vision. The high resolution video streams are constantly recorded to hard disk and an alarm, push notification or e-mail can be sent based on selected trigger criteria. Should an intruder manage to get passed the outside cameras, they will face 36 motion sensors located throughout the inside of the house. I spent several hours testing the cameras and video recorder to make sure everything worked as expected. I found several bonus features and learned how best to program the system.
This lovely arrangement of flowers arrived today. A thoughtful and most appreciated gift from Formlabs where I continue to consult on a monthly basis. We are grateful for the splash of beauty and brightness at an otherwise grey time.
We will remember 2022 as the year of the River House. A life long dream, to build our own home, it has been both a joy and a massive undertaking. We spent a full year living in the old house to experience every season so we could make the most informed design choices. The next 6 months were spent developing our plans and obtaining the necessary permitting for the project. During the last 6 months the actual work of demolition and construction commenced in earnest. With any luck, we hope to be “finished” in the next 6 months.
Jeanine and I tried to recreate a picture taken 2 years ago after we had just moved in. I think we did a good job on matching the clothing. but construction materials made it impossible to position my camera to get the same perspective. Consequently, the new house appears much taller compared to the old one. In fact, it is only slightly taller.
Behold the perfect Zeppole ball. Normally, our family prepares this traditional Italian treat on Christmas Eve. This year that did not happen so we decided to add it to the menu this evening. The kids arrived early afternoon and joined us for dinner. Maya prepared an exquisite mushroom risotto while Jeanine made a delightful salad and collard greens and red bean soup (for prosperity in the new year). I decided to tackle the Zeppole and must say that they came out very well. I used a new technique for cutting the dough which produced less of a ball and more of a tiny pillow shape. A nice bit of innovation with which to start the new year.
Good weather this week has resulted in great progress on the River House project. We are under a roof now, albeit just the sheathing. Still, it is a big milestone and means that work can progress inside even during inclement weather. Much of the building supplies have been moved under cover to protect them from the elements and most of the temporary internal reinforcements have been removed which makes it far easier to visualize the final space.
Before leaving Minnesota on my recent visit, I helped my brother to clear out my mother’s effects from the senior living center where she spent the last few years of her life. Among them was her Certificate of Naturalization, the only document I found which had both her picture and signature. The later is worth close inspection, as it demonstrates both her artistic expression and precise execution, characteristics that were present in every aspect of her life.
In order to finalize plans for electrical and plumbing infrastructure at the River House, I had to select a washer and dryer. We will be using a heat pump style ventless dryer. This type of machine runs off a 120V 15amp circuit compared to our last dryer which used 240V 40amp circuit (roughly five times less electricity). More importantly, the unit does not require an outside vent. Conventional dryers exhaust approximately 200 cubic feet of conditioned air every minute. This is a an additional huge waste of energy, especially during the summer and winter months not to mention an additional penetration through the building envelope. In a matter of a few years, I predict that heat pump ventless dryers will be a requirement for all new homes if not all new appliance sales.
I could not help myself with the title of today’s post even though Boxing Day was actually yesterday. Kyle is taking this week off for vacation and I worked with him this afternoon to box in the HVAC trunk line that feeds conditioned air to the house. We used 3/4″ stock and pocket hole screws to minimize the encroachment into his living space and were both quite pleased with the results. By midday, I was overcome with a severe headache and body aches and opted to return home. I tested negative for Covid and believe I might be suffering from food poisoning based on my other symptoms.
Angela Flerida Calabria, died at her residence in Minnetonka, Minnesota on December 23, 2022, at the age of 94, after succumbing to pneumonia. She was born in Guayaquil, Ecuador, the daughter of Jose Canelos and Delia Benavides, who immigrated to the United States via Ellis Island when she was a teenager. Angela was bilingual in Spanish and English. She initially worked as a silkscreen artist in New York City and continued that career for over 25 years part-time, while raising four children with her husband of 54 years, Dr. Frank M. Calabria, Ph.D.
Angela met Frank at a dance studio in Brooklyn, NY, where he was an instructor. They were married a year later and traveled through Europe on their honeymoon. The couple moved to Albany, NY in 1956 and to Schenectady in 1966, when Frank became a Professor of Psychology at Union College. The couple was renowned for their dance performances including folk dancing, ballroom dancing, and their favorite, Argentine Tango. Angela and Frank were treasured members of the Capital Region ballroom dance and Albany Tango Society communities.
Angela was also a talented artist and sculptor, working in various mediums, including clay, wood, metal, plaster, lead, and fabric. She studied the art of Chinese brush painting with Gu LeFu and sculpture under Robert Blood. Angela was also an accomplished gardener and transformed her Schenectady residence on Wendell Avenue, into an authentic Japanese garden, which was frequently featured in the GE Plot Home and Garden tours. Her residential housing layout sketch was featured in the book “Images of America -Schenectady’s General Electric Realty Plot”. Angela was also an active member of the Unitarian Universalist Society of Schenectady where she served on the Women’s Alliance and Wellspring Committees for many years. An avid tennis enthusiast, she played well into her seventies and was known for her tenacity.
Angela relocated to Minnetonka, MN in 2019. There she danced two or three times per week, with the Tango Society of Minnesota, up until weeks before her death. At the age of 93, Angela performed an intricate Argentine tango at the Mall of America for hundreds of fellow dancers and onlookers. Within the Minnesota dance community, she was recognized as a “Tango Treasure.”
Angela was predeceased by her husband, Frank Calabria. She is survived by her elder sister Maruja Coddington and younger brother James Canelos, four children; Carl Calabria, Mark Calabria, Alissa Quinn, and Mayela Harris, and by her nine grandchildren; Kyle, John, Mario, Nicolai, Rory, Rachel, Maya, Sophia, and Rose. She is also beloved by her in-laws Juanita Canelos, Robert Coddington, Jeanine Calabria, Marie Calabria, Stephen Harris, countless cousins, extended family, and friends.
Two memorial ceremonies will be held to honor a beautiful life; the first in Minnetonka, MN and the second at the Unitarian Universalist Society of Schenectady, NY with times and dates to be announced. The family would like to express their deep gratitude for the support and care received from Sunrise of Minnetonka, Home Instead of Minnesota, and Park Nicollet Hospice of Minnesota. Donations made in Angela’s honor will be graciously accepted by the Unitarian Universalist Society of Schenectady, 1221 Wendell Avenue, Schenectady, NY 12308, or Albany Tango Society, c/o Kevin Magee, 170 Central Avenue, Troy, NY 12180.
With all that has transpired this month, I have not had time to create our annual holiday card. I thought I would dedicate this post to a virtual version.
This year has been a most eventful one for the Calabria Clan.
Maya graduated from Olin College with a degree in Robotic Engineering and accepted a position at Formlabs as a Test Engineer. She recently injured her shoulder while mountain biking which has put a damper on her main passions; rock climbing and Latin dancing.
Nicolai took a leave of absence from teaching middle school social studies to train for the 2022 Amputee Soccer World Cup with a qualifier tournament in Mexico and the main event in Istanbul. He captained the team to its best-ever finish and scored 8 goals in 7 games. The entire family traveled to Turkey to watch him play.
Kyle was promoted to Senior Data Engineer at hims & hers where he has been working for almost two years. He has been renovating the basement of his home in Medford, a project which included adding air conditioning and switching from natural gas to all-electric appliances.
After 9 years as Executive Director of Open Table, Jeanine decided it was time to try something new. She timed her resignation so she could attend the World Cup with Nico and become more involved with the River House project. She is also about to publish her first book, “A Taste of Stories.”
I am now semi-retired, working in a part-time consulting capacity for a small number of local high-tech companies. The remainder of my time has been fully consumed with the design and construction supervision of our new home on the Sudbury River. I have also been helping Kyle with his renovation project on most Saturdays.
While in Turkey, Jeanine and I traveled to the Cappadocia, Pamukkale, and Selcuk regions where we enjoyed great hiking and the most amazing geological formations and archeological ruins. Jeanine spent time in Belgium with a long-time friend and I enjoyed some downtime in Puerto Vallarta.
We are thankful that everyone is healthy and happy and wish the same for you and yours in the coming year.
I was fortunate to catch a very early flight back to Massachusetts and arrived by noon. Maya and Nicolai picked me up at the airport and we rendezvoused with Jeanine at the River House. The kids have not seen the build recently and there was a lot to take in. We coaxed Jeanine up a ladder to the second floor where she was able to enjoy views from the aviary (her future office) for the first time. Kyle joined us shortly after we returned to the Road House where I shared my experience of the last week and we remembered Angela. It was a cathartic conversation and brought a real sense of closure to me.
In the evening we were joined by our close friend Aliza and her son Winn for Raclette, a Swiss[dish, also popular in the other Alpine countries, based on heating cheese and scraping off the melted part, typically over boiled potatoes. Aliza’s Bouche de Noel and chocolate cream pie made for a delicious finale. Later, Nicolai prepared dough for our traditional Zeppole Balls but the crew crashed before they could be fried and will have to wait until tomorrow.
My mom passed away this morning. I am grateful that I was by her side, holding her hand when the time came.
While I have been in Minnesota, Jeanine has been my eyes and ears on the ground at the River house build site. Each day she sends several photos to apprise me of progress. Today she also filled in for Santa, delivering Christmas presents to all the people working in the cold to bring our dream house to reality. Predicted torrential rains and the holiday will suspend further progress until next Tuesday.
I spent from 7 am to 7 pm with my mother today. She is resting comfortably but is no longer able to eat or drink. I am certain, however, that she can still hear and understand me so I read her the cards and messages that continue to arrive and tell her what all her loved ones are up to. For a change of pace, I also put on one of her Argentine Tango dance mix CDs (at low volume) until a hospice nurse suggested something more soothing. Naturally, I keep her up to speed on the status of the River House build which was always a topic of interest when we spoke by phone in recent months.. It is apparent to me that her time has arrived and my only wish now is that she pass quickly and peacefully. I hope and will try to be at her side when that moment arrives.
I spent the entire day with my mother in her room at the senior living center where she has been a resident for the last three years. She is no longer able to communicate verbally because she can not generate enough air pressure to speak intelligibly. She tried writing but this proved equally difficult. Instead, I asked her to show me what she wanted using her hands. This proved both effective and poignant. I could not help but think that she was dancing with her hands. Based on her gestures, I was able to determine that she wanted a thread and needle to sew something. Sadly, I judged it unsafe to give her something that sharp. I encouraged her to sew in the air and she was happy to do so for several minutes more.