Jeanine loves to celebrate Easter and enjoys giving gift baskets (buckets this year) to members of the family. Maya, a young adult by every measure, was as thrilled as a three year old with her basket which contained a variety of goodies. The message behind the contents of my basket required skillful interpretation informed by years of marriage.  During our honeymoon phase, I would have envisioned a romantic, candle lit evening with a dose of Aspirin to alleviate the strains of my morning soccer match paired with a chocolate aphrodisiac.  After nearly 27 years of marriage, however, I am confident that the correct decoding of my Easter basket message follows: Thank you for fixing the irrigation system, the lighter on the outside grill is not working, take one baby Aspirin a day so you don’t have a heart attack, I just had my IUD removed so birth control is now on you.